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Free Yourself From The Chaos

Hey Callie,

Here’s something about myself that I’ve known for a very long time – I’m impulsively impatient.

By impulsively impatient, I mean that when I’m feeling impatient I say and do things that I wouldn’t normally say or do. And I always end up regretting what I’ve done.

I’m not sure if it’s the New Yorker in me or if I was just born this way but I have to admit, it’s not a quality that I’m necessarily proud of.

Being impatient keeps me on edge.

I find it hard to relax and just go with the flow even when I’m doing the most mundane, everyday things.

Being impatient makes me feel out of control and that’s why I’ve decided to start working on it.

Now, I’m well aware (as you probably are) that implementing news habits can be a pain in the back end.

It’s not easy and there is plenty of room on the road to change for relapse and set backs.

The good news is that developing new habits is challenging for every human being to one degree or another. It doesn’t matter if you are looking to break through your codependent tendencies, quit smoking or are fresh in your recovery. We are all in the same rickety boat.

I’d love to hear all about the tools and techniques you use to keep your recovery going strong. You can share your tips over on the blog. And if there’s something specific that you are struggling with in your recovery, you can leave that over on the blog to. 

If you feel inspired to, please share today’s post with a family member or friend that’s on the road to recovery (from anything)!

Here’s to being more patient – wish me luck:)

Until Next Tuesday,

Dawn

Growing Up Chaotic

Recovering from an addiction is a process that does not end when you leave the rehabilitation center. It involves developing and implementing new habits that will make you a stronger person and change the way you live your life.

Though this is much easier said than done, there are some habits you can implement to slowly ease your way into recovery.

Below are 7 healthy habits for you to consider. Just remember to pick one or two to work on at a time so that you don’t get overwhelmed.

Cook for Yourself

Proper nutrition has not been a high priority and your body has been neglected in connection with your addiction. Cooking at home is a great way to address proper nutritional needs. In addition to assisting with healthy eating, it also offers a great opportunity to have some positive social time with family and friends at home and rebuild self sufficiency while also repairing relationships. Learning to cook new meals is also a great way to explore new things and to master new skills.

Start Running

Addiction affects both the physical and mental health of the body. Running also contains physical and mental elements, but rather than destroying your body, it makes it stronger, as stated here. As you learn how to take care of your body again, add in a little running to work on two parts of your health at once. The endorphins don’t suck either!

Have Daily Quiet Time

Just as it is important to take care of your body physically and mentally, recovery can be made better as you address your spiritual side as well. Take time to focus on your spirituality however that may apply to you. Pray, meditate, do yoga, practice deep breathing exercises, or read inspirational quotes or books. You will find you are able to better able to deal with your emotions, difficult situations, and the growing pains of recovery as you make quiet time a priority.

Volunteer

Looking outside of ourselves and finding ways to serve others is a great way to find success in recovery. There are opportunities within the addiction recovery community such as with 12-step programs to help those going through similar struggles. Volunteering will help to boost your self-esteem, as well as expand your social group, which often needs an adjustment as you strive to form healthier relationships.

Let Go

Part of building new habits is letting go of old ones. In the case of addiction recovery, this means learning to let go of people, environments, and situations that are toxic to you and your recovery. Any of these things can be triggers for a relapse and set you back in the progress you have made. Learn to identify those things that will be potentially harmful and let them become a part of your past. Know your limits and do not try to push them.

Write a Gratitude Journal

Take some time each day to write down a few things for which you are grateful. Some days it might be one thing and other days may lead to a whole page. There are bound to be setbacks in addiction recovery, so having a great list you wrote yourself of the good in your life can do a lot to lighten the burden.

Make a Daily To-Do List

It can be easy to become overwhelmed when you are working to ease yourself back into daily routines. In order to avoid this, make a to-do list each day, with the highest priority items at the top of the list.

Then as the day goes on, cross each completed item off the list. Be realistic when creating the to-do items and do not make the list too long.

As your recovery continues and you become used to your daily routine, you can add additional or more challenging items as you are able to manage them.

Recovery from an addiction is an on-going process and through small, gradual steps you will find yourself healing physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Over time you will be able to focus on the positive and possibly even help others in their journey to recovery.

Beautiful Kind of Pain

I should be use to this by now. She’s gone once again. I’ve become so immune to the lies and disappointments, Once again, addiction has taken the lead. You know this all too well. I know this all too well. I tell myself it’ll be the last time you get to me. I do hope you’re okay though. It’s time for me to take care of myself now. You’ll always be my Mother, don’t worry. Please remember it’s not too late to help yourself. You did it once before. Have you given up? I hope not. Still, I regret not trying hard enough. I was always here. Adult Children of Alcoholics blame themselves over and over again. I’m one of those children. I’ll always be an adult child of an alcoholic, always. I’ve come to the realization that I have options for myself. I can continue to revolve my life around the addiction and alcoholism, but I won’t. I also have the choice to forgive and make peace with my past. It’s what I need to move forward with my life. It’s time to respect myself. No guilt added.

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A Catalyst For Change

I grew up in an environment that made me want to strive to be independent, and of course, stable. It is so very hard for me to identify my childhood as “good” or “bad”, so I don’t. My mother and father were married 20 years, that is a long time. They legally divorced in August 2010. A divorce that was so messy, ugly and yet shocking. I do believe that they wanted things to work, they did try to work their issues out. They both always said it was “for the kids” though.

My mother drank bad throughout my teen years, she got worse and worse. I watched her alcoholism progress. The wonderful, loving mother I once knew was fading away with her vodka bottle, more and more with every sip she took.
And while my dad was the “adult figure” who showed himself to be financially and emotionally stable, he let anger consume him. I often wonder if his mental and verbal abuse was intentional. He had to have known that he had serious anger and control issues, right? Could my Mother not see the effects of his mental and verbal abuse? To this day I still honestly don’t know the answer to that. What I do know is that I need to move forward and stop this cycle. Some may believe I’m wrong for wanting to get away from my family. [Letting go is hard; but sacrificing a life in line with your inner self to avoid a chapter of pain is suicide.] Sometimes, we are so scared to hurt that we run from making the right choices.

We deserve to take the time to know ourselves- our beliefs, our goals, our dreams, our ideals, and our values. Once we begin to really dig deep and focus on who we are without all the weight, we can begin to see who is adding to our lives and who is subtracting. You deserve to be free from it all – so gather your strength and let yourself be. Listen to those still, small voices of your intuition; they are your beacon of light in the storm.

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